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The Key to Begin Healing

Have you ever had a pain that just wouldn’t go away?  An injury that doesn’t seem to want to heal?  Any chronic health problem or challenge?   It is my intention in this article to share with you a subtle, but powerful solution to this dilemma.  And although the solution is simple, I can guarantee a part of you will not want to do it.  In fact, a part of you will scream, “NO!  I WON’T DO IT.”   Let’s explore this.

In any healing process, the first step is awareness.  You have to become aware of a problem before it can be changed.  If you have a piece of lettuce in your teeth, you can’t remove it until someone points to their mouth and says, “There’s something in your teeth.”  In the healing process, this awareness usually starts as a symptom, such as a pain or discomfort.

The next step in any healing process is acknowledgement.  You have to acknowledge that there’s a problem.  If you ignore the pain or discomfort that you became aware of, what usually happens?  It gets worse, doesn’t it?  So acknowledgement is necessary.  The admittance that “I have a problem and something needs to change.”

Now we come to the next step in any healing process.  And this is the key to truly begin the healing.   This is the step I referred to earlier.  This is the step that you will probably resist and stop reading this article with an adamant “NO!”

The third and critical step to any healing process is ACCEPTANCE.

Once you become aware that there is something happening that needs to change, and you acknowledge it for what it is, to truly start the process of it changing and healing, you must accept it for what it is.  You must feel it, experience it and accept that in this moment this is what is.   You must accept that your life up to this point has led to this experience.   You must accept responsibility that the structure of your life as you have lived it, your behaviors and actions, and your thoughts, beliefs and the meaning you give things led to this experience.  And, most importantly, you must accept that you have the power to change it and only YOU can change it.

One of the greatest stories of the power of acceptance is the story of Victor Frankl, author of Man’s Search for Meaning and a survivor of the Holocaust. Victor Frankl was a prisoner in the Auschwitz death camps during the Nazi occupation of World War II. Surrounded by the smell of burning bodies and the sounds of children’s screams, Frankl found himself in an experience where death was certain.

One day, Frankl was taken to a dark room in the basement of a burnt out building, so that the “doctors” could give him a “routine checkup.” Before he knew it, he was strapped to a table and the men began sterilization surgery on him … without anesthesia. As he lay on the table in excruciating agony, he had a realization. These men had the liberty to go where they pleased and do what they wished, but, they did not have the freedom to think for themselves. They were puppets of a dark master, of which they must perform such horrible acts upon another human being. Although they had liberty, he, Frankl, had the freedom to create in his mind whatever picture he desired and think his own thoughts. With this sudden insight, he accepted his situation and began spending all his time with his eyes closed imagining himself running through green fields with his children and grandchildren. He saw himself being free of his horrible surroundings and envisioned himself traveling to America to share his story and newfound wisdom.

Victor Frankl survived the death camps. He traveled to America and wrote his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, which has been a source of inspiration for millions of readers. If Frankl had not accepted his situation, he would have suffered through his experience and probably never survived. By accepting his appalling circumstance and creating a new vision within his mind, Victor Frankl not only lived through it, but healed himself in the process and helped millions of people around the world to accept their situation and heal as well.

So what comes after acceptance?  NEXT!!!  This is what is, but what’s next?   What is your ideal?  And your ideal is not to be free of pain or cured of your illness.   The ideal is what is on the other side:  abundant health, vital energy, full self-expression, living on purpose.  Create a vision of your ideal and align the structure of your life, your behaviors and actions, and what you focus on with that vision … and watch the magic of healing, growth and success unfold.

If you want support with this process, please call our office at (954) 202-7477 or email me at drbarry@placeforhealing.com to experience the health and wellness benefits of reorganizational healing and network spinal analysis care.


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Why Does Healing Often Hurt?

When I started Chiropractic school, I was invited to a housewarming party of a fellow student named Helene.  At this party, I met a woman named Cathy who was in a wheel chair.  We began talking and she told me that she had been paralyzed from the waist down since the age of six after what seemed to be a minor fall.  After the fall, the feeling in her legs began to disappear and after a few weeks she could no longer move them.  It was now over 50 years later and she had never regained her ability to feel or move her legs.  The party ended, I said my good-byes, after which I would sometimes think of her, but never thought I’d ever see her again.

Four years later, it was time for graduation.  My friend, Helene, who had the original housewarming party, invited me to a graduation party.  We were having a great time, when suddenly a woman walked into the room that looked so familiar.  I asked Helene who she was?  She said it was Cathy!  I couldn’t believe it.  Here was a woman who four years ago had been confined to a wheelchair for over 50 years, and now she was walking into the room!

I stared at her like a little child who was seeing an angel.  She saw my stare, recognized me, and came over with a smile and said, “Nice legs, huh.”  I laughed and tears came to my eyes.  I asked her, “What happened?”  She explained to me that she had been under Chiropractic care, specifically Network Spinal Analysis (described in the next chapter) for the last four years, getting her spine adjusted every day, sometimes three or four times per day.  The process was slow, but the feeling and mobility had returned to her legs.  I asked her what it was like, and do you know what she said?

“It was the most painful experience of my life.”

This wonderful true story demonstrates that healing can often be a very painful experience. Often when you become aware of something, the discomfort may increase.  Have you ever had your arm fall asleep?  You may have woken up in the middle of the night to feel a strange arm next to you.  You throw on the light and realize that it is your arm!  You rub it, squeeze it, and pinch it to get some feeling back into it.  How does it feel when sensation begins to return to the arm?  First it tingles, then it stings, then it burns, then it throbs, then it just outright hurts!  After the pain subsides, your arm comes back to life.

Even though pain, discomfort, or other symptoms are increasing, it does not mean the problem is getting worse, it just means you are beginning to feel more.  Healing is not about feeling better, it is about being able to better feel.

When you become aware of your body and acknowledge every aspect of yourself, healing occurs.  You can accept who you are, what you are going through, and who you are becoming.

 


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The Healing Process of the Heart #6: Atonement

It has been said that forgiveness is the greatest healer.  Whether we forgive ourselves for some past action or word we have regretted, or we forgive another for something they may have done to us to cause us anger or grief, it has been said that the process of forgiveness allows one to let go of that which may have caused us hardship and move on to bigger and better things.

Whereas the process of forgiveness can be very healing and create a new sense of peace and calm within, it requires an inclination towards blame.  In order for us to forgive, it first requires that we make someone the culprit of which we have been made a victim, whether that culprit be ourselves or another.  In short, we are made a victim to the actions or words of some evildoer that has caused us grief.  For a while we resent them, feeling anger, guilt, or sorrow.  We may hold onto this event for years, until one day we no longer feel so angry or guilty and we forgive them.  We offer them reprieve and as the good judge we release them from their sin.

Although the process of forgiveness often can provide healing, it requires periods of emotion, belief, and mental activity that may interfere with health.  The challenge of forgiveness itself often causes great deals of stress and can sometimes create increased trouble in relationships.  Although I do not disregard the value of forgiveness, I feel there is a process that accomplishes so much more, without the detriment to our well-being.  This is the process of Atonement, or At-One-Ment.

Atonement or At-One-Ment is the process by which you realize that we all experience challenges in life.  Each of us lives each day with the same struggles and adversity that this physical existence offers.  We have all been a child.  We have all been through school.  We have all interacted with others.  We have all experienced joy.  We have all experienced sorrow.  We have all experienced pain.  We have all experienced fear.

When you understand that, in essence, we are all the same, there is no need for forgiveness, because you realize that you are never the victim nor the culprit, and neither is anyone else.  We are all in this together and we all have our ups and downs, ins and outs, high tides and low tides.

As we discussed earlier, people act based upon their beliefs, thoughts and emotions.  Where do these beliefs, thoughts and emotions that create action come from?  Our past experiences.  Everything anyone does is based upon all they know.  There are no wrong thoughts, words, or actions based on the person’s model of the world.  This is a very important concept to understand.  Why did our parents act the way they did?  Because their parents and other people in their environment had thoughts and feelings that caused them to act in certain ways.  These actions so influenced the beliefs, thoughts and feelings of our parents, as children and young adults, creating beliefs and paradigms in their minds and hearts causing them to act towards us in whatever way that they did.  Why does the criminal steal, the rapist rape, and the killer kill?  Beliefs, Thoughts and Feelings created by some past experience.  Maybe they were unloved by their parents.  Maybe they were abused as children, physically or emotionally. Whatever it may be, something that they experienced created beliefs, feelings and thoughts that allowed them to act in such a manner.  There are no victims.  There are no culprits.  There are only lost, hurt children crying for attention and asking for the love that they feel they never received.

When you begin to experience the world through the clear eyes of awareness, have acknowledged the inner hero within all of us, including yourself, have accepted the good and the bad, have begun to appreciate all that exists and live in constant affirmation of love, light, and healing, you at that time realize that we are all the same and live in a perpetual state of one-ness that we all are.  It is at this time that you have entered the sixth “Healing Process of the Heart”, Atonement or At-One-Ment.  As you live in atonement, forgiveness is no longer necessary for there is nothing to forgive…only love to give.

Living in atonement, as with the other “Healing Processes of the Heart”, can be automatic and instantaneous, or deliberate.  It is not something you do.  It is something you are.  As you move down your own path of healing, atonement is the natural consequence of becoming complete and whole within yourself.  Your life is as your vision.  Your heart is constantly filled with joy.  Your mind is clear and true, and all you see as you look at the world and the people around you is gratitude, wonder, and a deep sense of awe.

In the next entry, we will explore the seventh “Healing Process of the Heart” – Awe

Adapted from an excerpt from the book, A Clear Path to Healing, by Dr. Barry S. Weinberg

With Love and Appreciation,

Dr Barry

www.placeforhealing.com

 

 


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Healing Process of the Heart #4: Appreciation

Once you have reached the level of Acceptance, your healing process will truly accelerate.  There is something magical that occurs within you.  It is as if you embrace whatever may be and welcome whatever may come.  You come to understand and know that your body and mind are incredibly intelligent and wise, and that their every move is on purpose with your highest regard and best interest in mind.  Even when things seem bleak and the process is uncomfortable and scary, you know that it is for the purpose of your healing and you can glimpse the light at the end of the tunnel…the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow…your vision realized at the end of the path.

With this understanding, you come to Appreciate everything the body does, everything that comes to mind, and everything you may feel.  No matter how strange, uncomfortable, or frightening the things that arise may appear, you appreciate them, for you know that they are in your best interest.  There is no longer any fear and all doubt falls by the wayside.  Your disease or condition is no longer seen as such, but instead is witnessed as a blessing in disguise…a sheep in wolves’ clothing.

This is a wonderful place to be.  When you can see the good in your hardship, you can see the good in anything.  Your mind fills with gratitude and joy, for you are no longer prisoner to your condition, but instead allies.

It is at this stage in the healing process that heroes are formed.  The warriors who can stand before us, in spite of their illness, and inspire us to tears.  We hear stories of individuals who have overcome cancer by learning to appreciate its lessons.  They tell us that if it was not for the illness, they would not have developed the strength and wisdom to pursue their life’s mission and dearest dreams.  We hear of the man who experiences a cardiac arrest, after which discovering that he has been neglecting his family for work, begins a life in which he makes his family top priority.  He starts a healthier lifestyle of a clean diet, exercise, and a stress-free job.  We hear of the alcoholic or drug addict who suffered their whole life with anger, self-hatred, and depression, suddenly admitting to their problem and discovering the inner peace and love that was there all along…and then go out into the world to help others do the same.

These are all examples of the power of Appreciation.  When you begin to appreciate yourself and your world, you begin to care more about the person inside of you and the people around you.  You begin to have a deep core desire to participate more in your healing process and begin taking responsibility for your own health.  As the Helplessness fades away, you find an inner power which seems to come from deep within, has no boundaries or limits, of which you have an infinite abundance of supply.

With this Appreciation, you accept your inner power to heal and manifest as real that which you desire.  With each day that you experience this miracle of life within you, and witness the changes outside you, it no longer is something you have to think about…to think about.  It becomes a deep, inner core belief and you begin thinking about it and speaking about it the way you would say the sky is blue and water is wet.  It is a knowing, and through this knowing you begin expressing it through your actions and your words.

In the next entry, we will explore the fifth “Healing Process of the Heart” – Affirmation

Adapted from an excerpt from the book, A Clear Path to Healing, by Dr. Barry S. Weinberg

With Love and Appreciation,

Dr Barry

www.placeforhealing.com

 


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Healing Process of the Heart #3: Acceptance

Once you have become aware of a change within you or your environment, and you have acknowledged its presence as an aspect of yourself and an integral part of the healing process, you can begin to let go of the anger, sadness, or fear you may be experiencing and accept the situation for what it is.  If you can do this with the attitude of “what is…is,” much of the anxiety and apprehension you feel will begin to dissipate and be replaced with calm and security.

One of the greatest stories of the power of acceptance is the story of Victor Frankl, author of Man’s Search for Meaning and survivor of the Holocaust.  Victor Frankl was a prisoner in the Auschwitz death camps during the Nazi occupation of World War II.  Surrounded by the smell of burning bodies and the sounds of children’s screams, Victor found himself in an experience where death was certain.  One day, Victor was taken to a dark room in the basement of a burnt out building, so that the “doctors” could give him a “routine checkup”.  Before he knew it, he was strapped to a table and the men began sterilization surgery on him…without anesthesia.  As he was laying on the table in excruciating agony, he had a realization.  Whereas these men had the liberty to go where they please and do what they wish, they did not have the freedom to think for themselves.  They were puppets of a dark master, of which they must perform such horrible acts upon another human being.  Although they had freedom, he had the liberty to create in his mind whatever picture he desired and think his own thoughts.  With this sudden insight, he accepted  his situation and began spending all his time with his eyes closed imagining himself running through green fields with his children and grandchildren.  He saw himself being free of the horrible place he currently resided and traveling to America to share his story and newfound wisdom.

Victor Frankl did survive the death camps.  He traveled to America and wrote his book, which has been a source of inspiration for millions of readers.  If Victor had not accepted his situation, he would have suffered through his experience and probably never survived.  By accepting his appalling circumstance and creating a new vision within his mind, Victor Frankl not only lived through it, but healed himself in the process and helped millions of people around the world to accept their situation and heal as well.

In the next entry, we will explore the fourth “Healing Process of the Heart” – Appreciation.

Adapted from an excerpt from the book, A Clear Path to Healing, by Dr. Barry S. Weinberg

With Love and Appreciation,

Dr Barry

www.placeforhealing.com