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The Triad of Change Explored

 

Have you ever intended to make a change only to find yourself right back where you started shortly thereafter?

Perhaps you had a low back pain and your posture was off and you wanted to change your structure, so you visited a chiropractor? Perhaps you wanted to change a behavior such as quitting smoking or exercising and eating healthier, so you joined a gym?   Perhaps you were feeling anxious or depressed and you wanted to change your perception so you consulted a therapist?

Often when making changes such as these, we often find ourselves frustrated that it is so difficult to make the change. Have you ever experienced this?   I know I have. Why is this?  The answer can be found in a model called The Triad of Change.

The Triad of Change illustrates that in order for there to be a change, three things must be congruent:  Structure, Behavior and Perception.

  • TOCStructure = What we have – our body, home, business, schedule, relationships, finances, etc.
  • Behavior = What we do – our actions, habits, movements, posture, facial expressions, etc
  • Perception = What we think and feel – what we are focused on, the meaning we give things, our
    thoughts and feelings, etc.

For every Structure, there is a corresponding Behavior and Perception.
For every Behavior, there is a corresponding Structure and Perception.
For every Perception, there is a corresponding Structure and Behavior.
In order to make change in one of these “sides of the triad,” the other 2 sides must be in congruence.

Let’s use the three examples I made at the beginning of this article to illustrate:

Let’s say you have low back pain and your posture is off, so you visit a chiropractor to get help in changing your structure.   In order for there to be a change in the structure, there will need to be a congruent change in your behavior and perception.   The change in behavior may be more effective bending strategies and doing some stretching.    The change in perception may be rather than looking at the pain as something wrong, looking at it as an alert signal from your body to do things differently.

Let’s say you want to change a behavior such as exercising and eating healthier.  In order for there to be a change in the behavior, there needs to be a congruent change in your structure and perception.  The change in structure may be to find a coach who can create and support you in an exercise and dietary routine.  The change in perception may be from “I hate exercising!” to “Although its uncomfortable, I’m getting stronger and more flexible …and I love that!”

Let’s say you are feeling anxious and depressed and want to change your perception.  In order for there to be a change in the perception, there needs to be a congruent change in your structure and behavior.    Have you noticed that when feeling down, that your posture tends to be hunched over, head and neck forward and down?   The change in structure may be to change your posture…hold your head up and bring the shoulders back…perhaps working with a NSA practitioner to help you with the change.   The change in behavior may be to take deep breaths and get yourself active in something you enjoy such as painting or exercise.

So you can see from these examples, that in order to make an effective change in any other sides of the triad, there must be a corresponding congruent change in the other two sides.

So how do we effectively use the Triad of Change to make substantial, long-lasting change?

Although counter-intuitive, the greatest hindrance to making effective change is that we focus on the area that needs to be change.  For example, if we want to change a behavior such as a habit, we tend to focus on the habit and try to change our behavior.   If we want to change how we feel (our perception), we tend to dwell on how we feel.   If we want to change our structure, such as a our finances, we tend to focus on the finances.

This is our greatest source of struggle.  For generally, the side of the triad that we want to change is our weakest link and by trying to make a change utilizing our weakest side is a sure formula for further struggle.

The most effective way to create change in one of the sides of the triad is to focus on and start making change in the other 2 sides of the triad…and the 3rd side you are trying to change will fall into step with them.  Usually one of these two sides is your area of strength and the side to focus on first. This is the magic of this model and the amazing thing is when all three sides are at a new level of congruence you tap into a new and previously untapped source of Energy that supports that “new triad.”

So if you want to change Structure (What you Have) change what you are focusing on and what you are doing congruent with the new structure you want to create

If you want to change Behavior (What you are doing) change what you are focused on and the structure in and around you congruent with the new behavior you want to create.

If you want to change Perception (How you think and feel)  change the structure in and around you and what you are doing congruent with the new perception you want to create.

Let’s look at some real-life examples

Have you every felt down or stressed out (Perception), so you went for a walk (Behavior) in a Park (Structure) and not only did you start to feel better (Perception) but you had a creative idea that would move you forward.  (New source of energy in New triad).   This is the model at work!   By focusing on the other 2 sides of the triad, the other side you wanted to change….changed, and the new congruence of the 3 sides allowed you to tap into creative resources that were unavailable before.

Have you ever need to move a new apartment or house (Structure)?  If you just focused on the new residence you wouldn’t move anywhere.   By shifting your focus to the ideals you would like to experience in the new house and how it would feel (Perception), taking action to look at listings, visit homes and then make a choice and actually move (Behavior), before you know it you are in your new house. (Structure).  You can also apply this example to finding a new job, relationship, etc.

Have you ever wanted to start exercising or go on a diet (Behavior).  Generally, when you failed, you probably were focused on losing weight and attempted it on your own.   But those times you were successful, you focused on how the new you you wanted to feel (Perception) and  joined a gym or exercise class … or followed some diet regime such as Weight Watcher’s or Atkin’s in the case of diet (Structure).

So Let’s put it to work:

  • What is something you want to change?
  • Is it something you have (Structure), something you do (Behavior) or how you feel (Perception)
  • If it is a Structure, what is a compelling reason to make the change (Perception) and what can you do differently (behavior) that would be congruent with that new structure?
  • If it is a Behavior, what  is a compelling reason to make the change (Perception) and what can you change around you (structure) to support that new behavior?
  • If it is a Perception, what can you change around you and do that would be in alignment with that new perception.

At A Place for Healing, we support people in their health and wellness goals by implementing the Triad of Change. Network Spinal Analysis (NSA) uses gentle touches on the spine to help develop new internal emerging strategies of breath and movement (behavior) to optimize the posture (structure) of the spine and nervous system and be more effective at adapting to stress (behavior) helping people to feel better and have a more satisfying and fulfilling experience of life (Perception).   By changing structure and behavior, we change perception.

So next time you need to make a change, determine which side of the triad that change resides.   LET IT GO and focus on the other 2 sides!

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A Facebook Debate… Do Germs Cause Disease?

I recently had a discussion with another Facebook user about the true cause of disease and role germs do or do not play in this process.    Read this discussion below:
 
Barry Weinberg   If you saw flies swarming around some garbage in a field, would you think the flies caused the garbage? How would you get rid of the flies…with bug spray? I think you know the answers. Then why do we think germs cause disease and treat it with medicine? Maybe its time to clean the garbage from the field.

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Facebook User Reply en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Germ_theory_of_disease

Pretty sure this is the answer to your question.

Barry Weinberg Oh, my friend, it was not a question. It was a point. I know you choose to believe that germs cause illness, but the truth is a depressed immune system causes disease. It has been proven that there are more germs in our body than human cells. It is when our immune system gets depressed due to the inadequate adaptation to stress that germs take the opportunity to feed….like the flies on the garbage in the field. When things are in right order in the body, germs are actually beneficial and assist our body. Even Pasteur, the creator of the Germ Theory recanted his germ theory on his deathbed, saying, “Bernard is right. The pathogen is nothing…the terrain is everything.” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Claude_Bernard

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Facebook User Reply I agree that when we are weak and run down, we are considerably more likely to get sick. However, take a well rested, healthy person, introduce disease into their body and you will very likely also end up with a sick person. We’re not that far apart on this one…I think.

Barry Weinberg I think where we differ is in our beliefs. Your belief is that disease can come from without. I believe (and have seen 20 years of evidence for) that disease comes from within. Just as darkness can not be introduced to a room. So can disease not be introduced to the body. Just Darkness is caused by removing the light, disease is caused by a lose of health. Just as darkness can be eliminated by reintroducing light, disease is eliminated by restoring health. To fight disease is as futile as fighting darkness. (PS. Thank you for your comments. This is an important discussion. I believe our current health care crisis is not caused by lack of insurance but by this very issue.)

Facebook User Reply I respect your experience. The only experience I have is reading, but a lot can be gleaned from reading.

Using your model of “disease cannot come from outside the body”, are you suggesting that if we inject a perfectly healthy, well rested person with hiv, flu, a common cold, that they will not become infected?

This is essentially what I’m hearing, and the crux of my disagreement.

Barry Weinberg If their immune system is strong, yes! We are exposed to an uncountable number of germs every moment and we are not sick. There will be a classroom of children that get sick, yet one child does not. His immune system was strong. Nurses and doctors have worked in hospitals and triage for centuries amongst the most horrendous of disease and do not get sick. Their immune systems are strong. I’ll repeat, just as the flies do not cause the garbage in the field, the germ does not cause the disease. They are opportunists that take advantage of an already dis-eased system. Just because something is in the same the same location of a problem, does not deem them cause. Germs are ALWAYS there. Just because they are found in the location of where there is disease, does not create a cause and effect relationship. In fact, the proper cause and effect relationship would be that the disease is the cause and the germs are the effect.

Facebook User Reply wise

Barry Weinberg PS. I always trust my experience way before I trust what I read. You will never know the taste of an apple by reading about it….only by taking that bite!

 


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A Beautiful Testimonial: What My Practice is All About

A Beautiful Testimonial:

What My Practice is All About

 

“I originally came to Dr. Barry Weinberg and A Place for Healing because I suffered from vertigo, migraines and lower backaches.  Lots of work stress and taking lots of medications.

Since receiving Network Chiropractic care, I’m off my meds…less tension in my back and neck.  I’m much more aware of my mind and body.  I experience very little headaches.  I used to have an episode of vertigo about every other month, but now I’ve had only 2 minor attacks during the year I’ve been coming.

I feel energetic physically and mentally under Dr. Weinberg’s care.  I now have peace and am stress free.”

~ Linda Damon
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This beautiful testimonial demonstrates what my practice is all about. People who have been to my practice know that I am not about fixing anything or making pain go away. Yet, when the spine and nervous system are free of tension and interference, the body seems to “magically” heal and pain, illness and injury leave the body. People who have been to my practice know that I don’t usually give instruction on nutrition, exercise and other lifestyle habits. Yet, when the spine and nervous system are free of tension and interference, people seem to “magically” know what changes they need to make in their lifestyle and make those changes.

People who have been to my practice know that I am not a counselor, life coach or therapist. Yet, when the spine and nervous system are free of tension and interference, anxiety, depression and fear tend to “magically” fade and they experience more mental, emotional and spiritual well-being.

This is what my practice is all about.

Through the gentle, honoring contacts I apply to the spine with Network Spinal Analysis chiropractic care, people connect more with their bodies and develop new strategies to release tension, use tension to create change and become more adaptable to life. Through this process, not only does the body heal, but people experience more well-being in all areas of their life in a way that they never experienced before.

This is what my practice is all about.

Empowering people to heal themselves by finding the message in their pain, tension, illness, or injury and using it as a guide and the fuel to make subtle changes in their life that produce dramatic, positive results.

This is what life is all about.

This is what I am all about.

This is what my practice is all about.

With Love,

Dr Barry

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Moving with Awareness – Applying the Triad of Change

Good morning!

This Saturday my family and I are moving to our new home.   Besides getting married and starting a new business, moving residences is probably one of the biggest changes one can have.   Yet, when you have effective strategies for change, this big change can be made smoothly.   One of the greatest strategies for change is applying the Triad of Change from the Reorganizational Healing model as discussed in an earlier blog.

The Triad of Change encapsulates all areas of life and demonstrates what needs to be in congruence for change to happen.

The three components of the Triad of Change are:

Structure – What we have – Home, Body, Business, Finances, Relationships, etc.
Behavior – What we do – Our daily actions and habit
Perception – What we focus on – Our thoughts, feelings and the meaning we give things.

We also discussed previously that when you have a challenge and/or want to create change in one of the aspects of the Triad, rather than trying to change that aspect, focus on the other two.

So I’d like to use our move as an example and demonstrate how we applied the Triad of Change.  You will see how common sense this strategy is.

The change we wanted to make was in Structure – our Home.

So to make this change we focused on Perception and Behavior.

First, we made a list of all the qualities of our ideal home and how it would feel to be there.  Every day, we would look at the list and really feel how it would be to live there….as if we were already there.    That’s Perception.

Then we took the appropriate actions (Behavior) to find the home.  Got a realtor.  Visited homes. Etc.

Before we knew it, we’re packing and moving to our new home – Structure.

That’s how it works and you can apply this to any area of life you want to change.
If you want to change how you feel about something (Perception) – Focus on Structure and Behavior
If you want to change a habit – Focus on Structure and Perception
If you want to change something you have – Focus on Perception and Behavior

With Love and Appreciation,

Dr Barry

www.placeforhealing.com

 


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The Healing Process of the Heart #6: Atonement

It has been said that forgiveness is the greatest healer.  Whether we forgive ourselves for some past action or word we have regretted, or we forgive another for something they may have done to us to cause us anger or grief, it has been said that the process of forgiveness allows one to let go of that which may have caused us hardship and move on to bigger and better things.

Whereas the process of forgiveness can be very healing and create a new sense of peace and calm within, it requires an inclination towards blame.  In order for us to forgive, it first requires that we make someone the culprit of which we have been made a victim, whether that culprit be ourselves or another.  In short, we are made a victim to the actions or words of some evildoer that has caused us grief.  For a while we resent them, feeling anger, guilt, or sorrow.  We may hold onto this event for years, until one day we no longer feel so angry or guilty and we forgive them.  We offer them reprieve and as the good judge we release them from their sin.

Although the process of forgiveness often can provide healing, it requires periods of emotion, belief, and mental activity that may interfere with health.  The challenge of forgiveness itself often causes great deals of stress and can sometimes create increased trouble in relationships.  Although I do not disregard the value of forgiveness, I feel there is a process that accomplishes so much more, without the detriment to our well-being.  This is the process of Atonement, or At-One-Ment.

Atonement or At-One-Ment is the process by which you realize that we all experience challenges in life.  Each of us lives each day with the same struggles and adversity that this physical existence offers.  We have all been a child.  We have all been through school.  We have all interacted with others.  We have all experienced joy.  We have all experienced sorrow.  We have all experienced pain.  We have all experienced fear.

When you understand that, in essence, we are all the same, there is no need for forgiveness, because you realize that you are never the victim nor the culprit, and neither is anyone else.  We are all in this together and we all have our ups and downs, ins and outs, high tides and low tides.

As we discussed earlier, people act based upon their beliefs, thoughts and emotions.  Where do these beliefs, thoughts and emotions that create action come from?  Our past experiences.  Everything anyone does is based upon all they know.  There are no wrong thoughts, words, or actions based on the person’s model of the world.  This is a very important concept to understand.  Why did our parents act the way they did?  Because their parents and other people in their environment had thoughts and feelings that caused them to act in certain ways.  These actions so influenced the beliefs, thoughts and feelings of our parents, as children and young adults, creating beliefs and paradigms in their minds and hearts causing them to act towards us in whatever way that they did.  Why does the criminal steal, the rapist rape, and the killer kill?  Beliefs, Thoughts and Feelings created by some past experience.  Maybe they were unloved by their parents.  Maybe they were abused as children, physically or emotionally. Whatever it may be, something that they experienced created beliefs, feelings and thoughts that allowed them to act in such a manner.  There are no victims.  There are no culprits.  There are only lost, hurt children crying for attention and asking for the love that they feel they never received.

When you begin to experience the world through the clear eyes of awareness, have acknowledged the inner hero within all of us, including yourself, have accepted the good and the bad, have begun to appreciate all that exists and live in constant affirmation of love, light, and healing, you at that time realize that we are all the same and live in a perpetual state of one-ness that we all are.  It is at this time that you have entered the sixth “Healing Process of the Heart”, Atonement or At-One-Ment.  As you live in atonement, forgiveness is no longer necessary for there is nothing to forgive…only love to give.

Living in atonement, as with the other “Healing Processes of the Heart”, can be automatic and instantaneous, or deliberate.  It is not something you do.  It is something you are.  As you move down your own path of healing, atonement is the natural consequence of becoming complete and whole within yourself.  Your life is as your vision.  Your heart is constantly filled with joy.  Your mind is clear and true, and all you see as you look at the world and the people around you is gratitude, wonder, and a deep sense of awe.

In the next entry, we will explore the seventh “Healing Process of the Heart” – Awe

Adapted from an excerpt from the book, A Clear Path to Healing, by Dr. Barry S. Weinberg

With Love and Appreciation,

Dr Barry

www.placeforhealing.com

 

 


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Healing Process of the Heart #5: Affirmation

At this point, the healing experience has become a very real and integral part of your life.  It is no longer something that you desperately seek nor is it a new idea in your consciousness.  Through all that you have experienced, you have come to realize that healing is not something that someone must do to you or the consequence of any specific action, therapy, or diet program, but is instead an aspect of life that never stops, never leaves, and is your constant companion.  You no longer need affirmations to remind you of its presence, and you no longer must visualize your healing vision.  These affirmations become your constant inner dialogue and your visualizations never leave your mind’s eye.

You have read the books, you have studied the words, you have followed the instructions, and now it has become as familiar to you as breathing, eating, and sleeping.  Healing is not something that somebody does to you, or even something that you do to yourself.  It is merely something that you do, just as your heart beats and your lungs breath.  You now understand, through your own experience and your daily increase of awareness, perception, and consciousness, that healing is not simply the relief of symptoms and remission of disease, but the constant process of growth, evolution, and learning.  As your perception continues to become more refined, and your ability to respond more appropriately to changes in your outer and inner environment becomes more effective and efficient, learning and growing become more of your regular daily experience.  You begin to more effectively manifest physically your intentions, more harmoniously interact with others, and experience greater levels of contentment, joy, and peace.  Your disease, condition, or other expression of disharmony that once caused you so much distress, no longer holds a place in your consciousness and is seen as a consequence or effect of past causes (thoughts, words, and actions.)  Instead, your consciousness is filled with your vision and you begin to witness the universal principles, which were once fantastic, and perhaps fictitious, concepts in your daily life.

You have emerged into the Process of the Heart called Affirmation.  In this stage of healing, your encounter with every moment of every day reminds you of and affirms the truths, principles, and laws that govern the universe. You no longer need to remind yourself of these things, for the universe begins to speak to you through life.

As such, your language begins to change.  You find that you no longer speak of lack or detriment, but instead spread only words of wisdom, healing, and truth.  Your affirmations flow from you as natural as your regional dialect and cultural slang.  You have freed yourself from the prison of false beliefs, denial, and doubt, and have become one of the few who sees through rose-colored glasses and always has a cup that is half-full, rather than half-empty.

As you observe yourself in this constant state of affirmation and allow yourself to receive the voice of the universe through everything you see, everything you hear, and everyone you meet, you greet all experience with open arms and realize that we are all one.

In the next entry, we will explore the sixth “Healing Process of the Heart” – Atonement

Adapted from an excerpt from the book, A Clear Path to Healing, by Dr. Barry S. Weinberg

With Love and Appreciation,

Dr Barry

www.placeforhealing.com

 

 


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Healing Process of the Heart #4: Appreciation

Once you have reached the level of Acceptance, your healing process will truly accelerate.  There is something magical that occurs within you.  It is as if you embrace whatever may be and welcome whatever may come.  You come to understand and know that your body and mind are incredibly intelligent and wise, and that their every move is on purpose with your highest regard and best interest in mind.  Even when things seem bleak and the process is uncomfortable and scary, you know that it is for the purpose of your healing and you can glimpse the light at the end of the tunnel…the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow…your vision realized at the end of the path.

With this understanding, you come to Appreciate everything the body does, everything that comes to mind, and everything you may feel.  No matter how strange, uncomfortable, or frightening the things that arise may appear, you appreciate them, for you know that they are in your best interest.  There is no longer any fear and all doubt falls by the wayside.  Your disease or condition is no longer seen as such, but instead is witnessed as a blessing in disguise…a sheep in wolves’ clothing.

This is a wonderful place to be.  When you can see the good in your hardship, you can see the good in anything.  Your mind fills with gratitude and joy, for you are no longer prisoner to your condition, but instead allies.

It is at this stage in the healing process that heroes are formed.  The warriors who can stand before us, in spite of their illness, and inspire us to tears.  We hear stories of individuals who have overcome cancer by learning to appreciate its lessons.  They tell us that if it was not for the illness, they would not have developed the strength and wisdom to pursue their life’s mission and dearest dreams.  We hear of the man who experiences a cardiac arrest, after which discovering that he has been neglecting his family for work, begins a life in which he makes his family top priority.  He starts a healthier lifestyle of a clean diet, exercise, and a stress-free job.  We hear of the alcoholic or drug addict who suffered their whole life with anger, self-hatred, and depression, suddenly admitting to their problem and discovering the inner peace and love that was there all along…and then go out into the world to help others do the same.

These are all examples of the power of Appreciation.  When you begin to appreciate yourself and your world, you begin to care more about the person inside of you and the people around you.  You begin to have a deep core desire to participate more in your healing process and begin taking responsibility for your own health.  As the Helplessness fades away, you find an inner power which seems to come from deep within, has no boundaries or limits, of which you have an infinite abundance of supply.

With this Appreciation, you accept your inner power to heal and manifest as real that which you desire.  With each day that you experience this miracle of life within you, and witness the changes outside you, it no longer is something you have to think about…to think about.  It becomes a deep, inner core belief and you begin thinking about it and speaking about it the way you would say the sky is blue and water is wet.  It is a knowing, and through this knowing you begin expressing it through your actions and your words.

In the next entry, we will explore the fifth “Healing Process of the Heart” – Affirmation

Adapted from an excerpt from the book, A Clear Path to Healing, by Dr. Barry S. Weinberg

With Love and Appreciation,

Dr Barry

www.placeforhealing.com