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Attention Creates Reality

Attention Creates Reality
by Rob James, Self Discovery Group LLC

Whatever we have attention on becomes more real. The more
attention we have on it the more real it becomes. At the most
fundamental level reality can be defined as to what we truly believe is
real, what we allow our attention to focus on. Attention is the life force
of the universe. It has been called “Chi”, “energy”, “Qi”, Prana, etc.

Whatever we withdraw our attention away from becomes less real
and will eventually dissipate if we do not give our attention to it.

How do we explain that some things seem to persist in our reality
even when we stop giving them attention? … there is an unconscious
automatic supply of attention you are giving it. Finding the
unconscious source of fixed attention and relaxing it from the creation
is the way back to living deliberately and managing your life reality.

Being ignorant of the mechanics of this process or avoiding/denying it
does not make it different or make it go away no matter how much we
wish it would. We must become self-aware and explore how and
what we direct our attention (our life force) toward in our lives if we
are ever going to truly experience fulfillment, lasting happiness and
peace of mind.

Learn to Master Your Attention

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The Power of Presence

The Power of Presence

by Rob James, Founder of the Self Discovery Life Mastery Techniques

The most powerfully transformational reality we can explore as humans is to be fully present with our moment-to-moment life experience, to fully acknowledge and be aware of our thoughts and emotions and physical sensations as they occur. When we embrace our life in this way, everything begins to “flow” and transform in truly amazing ways!

The natural healing process of our body begins – and stored emotions and sensations that we formerly were unconscious of begin to surface. As we become aware of them and allow them to flow without resistance, without trying to “fix” them or “process” them or analyze them or “do” anything at all to them – just the act of passively observing them creates a miraculous transformation!

The “charges” that were held in our body begin to dissipate much like discharging a battery and we free more of our attention to use as we decide. We can then live with more deliberation, self-determination and the result is more freedom and clarity in our life.

The law of least effort applies fully here – how much effort does it take for the grass to grow or for birds to fly or for the Earth to whirl at an incredible speed through space! How much effort do you want to exert to live your life? If most of us ask our heart this question we will hear the intuitive answer – effortless living. When we surrender to fully experiencing each moment, our natural tendency is to live in this “eternal now” and life flows effortlessly – you meet exactly who you need to and experience exactly what you need to move your life in a more expansive and fulfilling direction…serendipity becomes the norm.

Some of us have struggled for so long that we believe it is the only way, we believe we deserve to suffer because we did not do what our parents or society programmed us to do exactly the way they told us to. Far more fundamental to who we are – our heart yearns to be free and for us to fulfill our true desires and deliver our original and unique message to the world, our life purpose, to fully express ourselves as who we are.

Most of us know all of this intellectually – the question to ask yourself is how conscious are you being? How much of the time are you being fully aware and present? How about right now? Are you aware of the room you are in or your body or the thoughts you are having right now? Are any of your identities running you on automatic? Is your mind “stuck” in the think, think, think mode with opinions about everything? Observe it right now for a moment and see…

This is all you ever need do – practice being aware of yourself and observe yourself moment-to-moment . Choose to act only from inspiration and intuition and watch the miracles begin!

If you want to deepen your ability to be conscious in every moment of life and release limitations to your joy and success – you will want to explore the Self Discovery Life Mastery Coaching. What does your intuition tell you?

Call our office at (954) 848-4325

or respond to this e-mail to schedule

your Free Introductory Life Perspective Session

with Dr Barry!


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The Triad of Change Explored

 

Have you ever intended to make a change only to find yourself right back where you started shortly thereafter?

Perhaps you had a low back pain and your posture was off and you wanted to change your structure, so you visited a chiropractor? Perhaps you wanted to change a behavior such as quitting smoking or exercising and eating healthier, so you joined a gym?   Perhaps you were feeling anxious or depressed and you wanted to change your perception so you consulted a therapist?

Often when making changes such as these, we often find ourselves frustrated that it is so difficult to make the change. Have you ever experienced this?   I know I have. Why is this?  The answer can be found in a model called The Triad of Change.

The Triad of Change illustrates that in order for there to be a change, three things must be congruent:  Structure, Behavior and Perception.

  • TOCStructure = What we have – our body, home, business, schedule, relationships, finances, etc.
  • Behavior = What we do – our actions, habits, movements, posture, facial expressions, etc
  • Perception = What we think and feel – what we are focused on, the meaning we give things, our
    thoughts and feelings, etc.

For every Structure, there is a corresponding Behavior and Perception.
For every Behavior, there is a corresponding Structure and Perception.
For every Perception, there is a corresponding Structure and Behavior.
In order to make change in one of these “sides of the triad,” the other 2 sides must be in congruence.

Let’s use the three examples I made at the beginning of this article to illustrate:

Let’s say you have low back pain and your posture is off, so you visit a chiropractor to get help in changing your structure.   In order for there to be a change in the structure, there will need to be a congruent change in your behavior and perception.   The change in behavior may be more effective bending strategies and doing some stretching.    The change in perception may be rather than looking at the pain as something wrong, looking at it as an alert signal from your body to do things differently.

Let’s say you want to change a behavior such as exercising and eating healthier.  In order for there to be a change in the behavior, there needs to be a congruent change in your structure and perception.  The change in structure may be to find a coach who can create and support you in an exercise and dietary routine.  The change in perception may be from “I hate exercising!” to “Although its uncomfortable, I’m getting stronger and more flexible …and I love that!”

Let’s say you are feeling anxious and depressed and want to change your perception.  In order for there to be a change in the perception, there needs to be a congruent change in your structure and behavior.    Have you noticed that when feeling down, that your posture tends to be hunched over, head and neck forward and down?   The change in structure may be to change your posture…hold your head up and bring the shoulders back…perhaps working with a NSA practitioner to help you with the change.   The change in behavior may be to take deep breaths and get yourself active in something you enjoy such as painting or exercise.

So you can see from these examples, that in order to make an effective change in any other sides of the triad, there must be a corresponding congruent change in the other two sides.

So how do we effectively use the Triad of Change to make substantial, long-lasting change?

Although counter-intuitive, the greatest hindrance to making effective change is that we focus on the area that needs to be change.  For example, if we want to change a behavior such as a habit, we tend to focus on the habit and try to change our behavior.   If we want to change how we feel (our perception), we tend to dwell on how we feel.   If we want to change our structure, such as a our finances, we tend to focus on the finances.

This is our greatest source of struggle.  For generally, the side of the triad that we want to change is our weakest link and by trying to make a change utilizing our weakest side is a sure formula for further struggle.

The most effective way to create change in one of the sides of the triad is to focus on and start making change in the other 2 sides of the triad…and the 3rd side you are trying to change will fall into step with them.  Usually one of these two sides is your area of strength and the side to focus on first. This is the magic of this model and the amazing thing is when all three sides are at a new level of congruence you tap into a new and previously untapped source of Energy that supports that “new triad.”

So if you want to change Structure (What you Have) change what you are focusing on and what you are doing congruent with the new structure you want to create

If you want to change Behavior (What you are doing) change what you are focused on and the structure in and around you congruent with the new behavior you want to create.

If you want to change Perception (How you think and feel)  change the structure in and around you and what you are doing congruent with the new perception you want to create.

Let’s look at some real-life examples

Have you every felt down or stressed out (Perception), so you went for a walk (Behavior) in a Park (Structure) and not only did you start to feel better (Perception) but you had a creative idea that would move you forward.  (New source of energy in New triad).   This is the model at work!   By focusing on the other 2 sides of the triad, the other side you wanted to change….changed, and the new congruence of the 3 sides allowed you to tap into creative resources that were unavailable before.

Have you ever need to move a new apartment or house (Structure)?  If you just focused on the new residence you wouldn’t move anywhere.   By shifting your focus to the ideals you would like to experience in the new house and how it would feel (Perception), taking action to look at listings, visit homes and then make a choice and actually move (Behavior), before you know it you are in your new house. (Structure).  You can also apply this example to finding a new job, relationship, etc.

Have you ever wanted to start exercising or go on a diet (Behavior).  Generally, when you failed, you probably were focused on losing weight and attempted it on your own.   But those times you were successful, you focused on how the new you you wanted to feel (Perception) and  joined a gym or exercise class … or followed some diet regime such as Weight Watcher’s or Atkin’s in the case of diet (Structure).

So Let’s put it to work:

  • What is something you want to change?
  • Is it something you have (Structure), something you do (Behavior) or how you feel (Perception)
  • If it is a Structure, what is a compelling reason to make the change (Perception) and what can you do differently (behavior) that would be congruent with that new structure?
  • If it is a Behavior, what  is a compelling reason to make the change (Perception) and what can you change around you (structure) to support that new behavior?
  • If it is a Perception, what can you change around you and do that would be in alignment with that new perception.

At A Place for Healing, we support people in their health and wellness goals by implementing the Triad of Change. Network Spinal Analysis (NSA) uses gentle touches on the spine to help develop new internal emerging strategies of breath and movement (behavior) to optimize the posture (structure) of the spine and nervous system and be more effective at adapting to stress (behavior) helping people to feel better and have a more satisfying and fulfilling experience of life (Perception).   By changing structure and behavior, we change perception.

So next time you need to make a change, determine which side of the triad that change resides.   LET IT GO and focus on the other 2 sides!


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A Beautiful Testimonial: What My Practice is All About

A Beautiful Testimonial:

What My Practice is All About

 

“I originally came to Dr. Barry Weinberg and A Place for Healing because I suffered from vertigo, migraines and lower backaches.  Lots of work stress and taking lots of medications.

Since receiving Network Chiropractic care, I’m off my meds…less tension in my back and neck.  I’m much more aware of my mind and body.  I experience very little headaches.  I used to have an episode of vertigo about every other month, but now I’ve had only 2 minor attacks during the year I’ve been coming.

I feel energetic physically and mentally under Dr. Weinberg’s care.  I now have peace and am stress free.”

~ Linda Damon
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This beautiful testimonial demonstrates what my practice is all about. People who have been to my practice know that I am not about fixing anything or making pain go away. Yet, when the spine and nervous system are free of tension and interference, the body seems to “magically” heal and pain, illness and injury leave the body. People who have been to my practice know that I don’t usually give instruction on nutrition, exercise and other lifestyle habits. Yet, when the spine and nervous system are free of tension and interference, people seem to “magically” know what changes they need to make in their lifestyle and make those changes.

People who have been to my practice know that I am not a counselor, life coach or therapist. Yet, when the spine and nervous system are free of tension and interference, anxiety, depression and fear tend to “magically” fade and they experience more mental, emotional and spiritual well-being.

This is what my practice is all about.

Through the gentle, honoring contacts I apply to the spine with Network Spinal Analysis chiropractic care, people connect more with their bodies and develop new strategies to release tension, use tension to create change and become more adaptable to life. Through this process, not only does the body heal, but people experience more well-being in all areas of their life in a way that they never experienced before.

This is what my practice is all about.

Empowering people to heal themselves by finding the message in their pain, tension, illness, or injury and using it as a guide and the fuel to make subtle changes in their life that produce dramatic, positive results.

This is what life is all about.

This is what I am all about.

This is what my practice is all about.

With Love,

Dr Barry

Visit our website www.placeforhealing.com


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The Key to Begin Healing

Have you ever had a pain that just wouldn’t go away?  An injury that doesn’t seem to want to heal?  Any chronic health problem or challenge?   It is my intention in this article to share with you a subtle, but powerful solution to this dilemma.  And although the solution is simple, I can guarantee a part of you will not want to do it.  In fact, a part of you will scream, “NO!  I WON’T DO IT.”   Let’s explore this.

In any healing process, the first step is awareness.  You have to become aware of a problem before it can be changed.  If you have a piece of lettuce in your teeth, you can’t remove it until someone points to their mouth and says, “There’s something in your teeth.”  In the healing process, this awareness usually starts as a symptom, such as a pain or discomfort.

The next step in any healing process is acknowledgement.  You have to acknowledge that there’s a problem.  If you ignore the pain or discomfort that you became aware of, what usually happens?  It gets worse, doesn’t it?  So acknowledgement is necessary.  The admittance that “I have a problem and something needs to change.”

Now we come to the next step in any healing process.  And this is the key to truly begin the healing.   This is the step I referred to earlier.  This is the step that you will probably resist and stop reading this article with an adamant “NO!”

The third and critical step to any healing process is ACCEPTANCE.

Once you become aware that there is something happening that needs to change, and you acknowledge it for what it is, to truly start the process of it changing and healing, you must accept it for what it is.  You must feel it, experience it and accept that in this moment this is what is.   You must accept that your life up to this point has led to this experience.   You must accept responsibility that the structure of your life as you have lived it, your behaviors and actions, and your thoughts, beliefs and the meaning you give things led to this experience.  And, most importantly, you must accept that you have the power to change it and only YOU can change it.

One of the greatest stories of the power of acceptance is the story of Victor Frankl, author of Man’s Search for Meaning and a survivor of the Holocaust. Victor Frankl was a prisoner in the Auschwitz death camps during the Nazi occupation of World War II. Surrounded by the smell of burning bodies and the sounds of children’s screams, Frankl found himself in an experience where death was certain.

One day, Frankl was taken to a dark room in the basement of a burnt out building, so that the “doctors” could give him a “routine checkup.” Before he knew it, he was strapped to a table and the men began sterilization surgery on him … without anesthesia. As he lay on the table in excruciating agony, he had a realization. These men had the liberty to go where they pleased and do what they wished, but, they did not have the freedom to think for themselves. They were puppets of a dark master, of which they must perform such horrible acts upon another human being. Although they had liberty, he, Frankl, had the freedom to create in his mind whatever picture he desired and think his own thoughts. With this sudden insight, he accepted his situation and began spending all his time with his eyes closed imagining himself running through green fields with his children and grandchildren. He saw himself being free of his horrible surroundings and envisioned himself traveling to America to share his story and newfound wisdom.

Victor Frankl survived the death camps. He traveled to America and wrote his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, which has been a source of inspiration for millions of readers. If Frankl had not accepted his situation, he would have suffered through his experience and probably never survived. By accepting his appalling circumstance and creating a new vision within his mind, Victor Frankl not only lived through it, but healed himself in the process and helped millions of people around the world to accept their situation and heal as well.

So what comes after acceptance?  NEXT!!!  This is what is, but what’s next?   What is your ideal?  And your ideal is not to be free of pain or cured of your illness.   The ideal is what is on the other side:  abundant health, vital energy, full self-expression, living on purpose.  Create a vision of your ideal and align the structure of your life, your behaviors and actions, and what you focus on with that vision … and watch the magic of healing, growth and success unfold.

If you want support with this process, please call our office at (954) 202-7477 or email me at drbarry@placeforhealing.com to experience the health and wellness benefits of reorganizational healing and network spinal analysis care.


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Why Does Healing Often Hurt?

When I started Chiropractic school, I was invited to a housewarming party of a fellow student named Helene.  At this party, I met a woman named Cathy who was in a wheel chair.  We began talking and she told me that she had been paralyzed from the waist down since the age of six after what seemed to be a minor fall.  After the fall, the feeling in her legs began to disappear and after a few weeks she could no longer move them.  It was now over 50 years later and she had never regained her ability to feel or move her legs.  The party ended, I said my good-byes, after which I would sometimes think of her, but never thought I’d ever see her again.

Four years later, it was time for graduation.  My friend, Helene, who had the original housewarming party, invited me to a graduation party.  We were having a great time, when suddenly a woman walked into the room that looked so familiar.  I asked Helene who she was?  She said it was Cathy!  I couldn’t believe it.  Here was a woman who four years ago had been confined to a wheelchair for over 50 years, and now she was walking into the room!

I stared at her like a little child who was seeing an angel.  She saw my stare, recognized me, and came over with a smile and said, “Nice legs, huh.”  I laughed and tears came to my eyes.  I asked her, “What happened?”  She explained to me that she had been under Chiropractic care, specifically Network Spinal Analysis (described in the next chapter) for the last four years, getting her spine adjusted every day, sometimes three or four times per day.  The process was slow, but the feeling and mobility had returned to her legs.  I asked her what it was like, and do you know what she said?

“It was the most painful experience of my life.”

This wonderful true story demonstrates that healing can often be a very painful experience. Often when you become aware of something, the discomfort may increase.  Have you ever had your arm fall asleep?  You may have woken up in the middle of the night to feel a strange arm next to you.  You throw on the light and realize that it is your arm!  You rub it, squeeze it, and pinch it to get some feeling back into it.  How does it feel when sensation begins to return to the arm?  First it tingles, then it stings, then it burns, then it throbs, then it just outright hurts!  After the pain subsides, your arm comes back to life.

Even though pain, discomfort, or other symptoms are increasing, it does not mean the problem is getting worse, it just means you are beginning to feel more.  Healing is not about feeling better, it is about being able to better feel.

When you become aware of your body and acknowledge every aspect of yourself, healing occurs.  You can accept who you are, what you are going through, and who you are becoming.

 


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Healing your Pain

Do you feel any pain or tension in the body?

Pain and discomfort has one purpose:  The body is asking for your attention.

Often when we experience a pain or discomfort in the body, our first reaction is to resist it and do what ever it takes to make it go away.  Instead, give the body what it is asking for:  ATTENTION.

Close your eyes and put your full attention into the area of discomfort.   FEEL IT without resistance….without trying to make it go away.  Allow it.

It may take a little time, but by give the body the attention it is asking for, not only will the pain begin to lessen, the body will begin to heal.

Just as we give a child attention when he or she is crying….and not try to stifle their expression….so too should we give our body attention when it cries for it.

With Love,

Dr Barry