It is a time-honored tradition of yearly commitment to change – the New Year’s Resolution. We sit down and make a decision that this year we will begin a regular exercise program or new diet. Or perhaps we will quit smoking or spend more time with our children. Why is it that when we make these ‘resolute’ decisions, so many of these annual promises rarely last? When we resolve each year, what we are really looking for is ‘a dramatic and far-reaching change’. What we seek is a New Year’s REVOLUTION.
Often our New Year’s resolutions ‘revolve’ around actions we want to take or habits we want to change. The focus is always on the action – the Doing. To create a dramatic and far-reaching change, we must first understand that all of our actions come from what we are thinking and feeling… who we are being.
It is a common belief that ‘when I do this…then I will have that…and then I will be happy.’ For example, if I work real hard, I will have lots of money and then I will be happy. The truth is true success and happiness occur in the reverse. When you are happy with an attitude of success …you will do the things that will bring you all you desire. The being always precedes the doing and the having.
To create your New Year’s Revolution, you must first decide what you want, and then, more importantly, determine why you want it. Ask yourself why you want to exercise or go on a diet. Is it to lose weight? Is it to get in shape? But why do you want that? With each answer to why, keep asking why. Dig deeper. Are you trying to get away from or MOVING TOWARD something? Ultimately, you will find that the answer will always lead to a state of being you want to move toward…to be stronger…to be freer…to be happy.
Would you like to know a secret? Come closer…you do not have to do anything to be happy! All you need is to change your focus and decide to be happy. Ultimately, this is the decision that needs to be made…to be happy. It is an attitude. How do you be happy? Ask what it would feel like right now if you were happy. Ask yourself how a happy person would be. How would a happy person breathe…shallow or deep? What would their posture be like? How would they move? What would they be thinking? How else would they be? Once you have the answers to these questions, you have the formula to be happy. If you want to be successful… enthusiastic… compassionate, ask how a person with these qualities would be and be it by putting your attention on how it would feel right now.. You will find that once you develop these qualities, you will automatically do the things that will bring you the things that you desire.
Always start your New Year’s Revolution by developing your be. Before taking action, spend a week, or even a month, being the person who would take that action by putting your attention on the feeling of it already accomplished. You will reach a point when the feeling will be so real you will naturally take the action that will bring it forth easily and effortlessly. It will be a natural expression of who you are. Just as a flower effortlessly releases it fragrant scent and a bird naturally sings its song, so too will you naturally fulfill your New Year’s REVOLUTION.