It has been said that forgiveness is the greatest healer. Whether we forgive ourselves for some past action or word we have regretted, or we forgive another for something they may have done to us to cause us anger or grief, it has been said that the process of forgiveness allows one to let go of that which may have caused us hardship and move on to bigger and better things.
Whereas the process of forgiveness can be very healing and create a new sense of peace and calm within, it requires an inclination towards blame. In order for us to forgive, it first requires that we make someone the culprit of which we have been made a victim, whether that culprit be ourselves or another. In short, we are made a victim to the actions or words of some evildoer that has caused us grief. For a while we resent them, feeling anger, guilt, or sorrow. We may hold onto this event for years, until one day we no longer feel so angry or guilty and we forgive them. We offer them reprieve and as the good judge we release them from their sin.
Although the process of forgiveness often can provide healing, it requires periods of emotion, belief, and mental activity that may interfere with health. The challenge of forgiveness itself often causes great deals of stress and can sometimes create increased trouble in relationships. Although I do not disregard the value of forgiveness, I feel there is a process that accomplishes so much more, without the detriment to our well-being. This is the process of Atonement, or At-One-Ment.
Atonement or At-One-Ment is the process by which you realize that we all experience challenges in life. Each of us lives each day with the same struggles and adversity that this physical existence offers. We have all been a child. We have all been through school. We have all interacted with others. We have all experienced joy. We have all experienced sorrow. We have all experienced pain. We have all experienced fear.
When you understand that, in essence, we are all the same, there is no need for forgiveness, because you realize that you are never the victim nor the culprit, and neither is anyone else. We are all in this together and we all have our ups and downs, ins and outs, high tides and low tides.
As we discussed earlier, people act based upon their beliefs, thoughts and emotions. Where do these beliefs, thoughts and emotions that create action come from? Our past experiences. Everything anyone does is based upon all they know. There are no wrong thoughts, words, or actions based on the person’s model of the world. This is a very important concept to understand. Why did our parents act the way they did? Because their parents and other people in their environment had thoughts and feelings that caused them to act in certain ways. These actions so influenced the beliefs, thoughts and feelings of our parents, as children and young adults, creating beliefs and paradigms in their minds and hearts causing them to act towards us in whatever way that they did. Why does the criminal steal, the rapist rape, and the killer kill? Beliefs, Thoughts and Feelings created by some past experience. Maybe they were unloved by their parents. Maybe they were abused as children, physically or emotionally. Whatever it may be, something that they experienced created beliefs, feelings and thoughts that allowed them to act in such a manner. There are no victims. There are no culprits. There are only lost, hurt children crying for attention and asking for the love that they feel they never received.
When you begin to experience the world through the clear eyes of awareness, have acknowledged the inner hero within all of us, including yourself, have accepted the good and the bad, have begun to appreciate all that exists and live in constant affirmation of love, light, and healing, you at that time realize that we are all the same and live in a perpetual state of one-ness that we all are. It is at this time that you have entered the sixth “Healing Process of the Heart”, Atonement or At-One-Ment. As you live in atonement, forgiveness is no longer necessary for there is nothing to forgive…only love to give.
Living in atonement, as with the other “Healing Processes of the Heart”, can be automatic and instantaneous, or deliberate. It is not something you do. It is something you are. As you move down your own path of healing, atonement is the natural consequence of becoming complete and whole within yourself. Your life is as your vision. Your heart is constantly filled with joy. Your mind is clear and true, and all you see as you look at the world and the people around you is gratitude, wonder, and a deep sense of awe.
In the next entry, we will explore the seventh “Healing Process of the Heart” – Awe
Adapted from an excerpt from the book, A Clear Path to Healing, by Dr. Barry S. Weinberg
With Love and Appreciation,